Delay

Sorry about the lag of posting. This week is what you would call hell week for me. I found out a few thinks that could change the plans of the wedding. But let me start from where we left off.

So, last weekend my plan was to find a florist. I met up with five different florist. Lets just say I had no time to spend with my fiance. No, he doesn't like to come with me to the appointments, especially for flowers. And who would blame him, he would be board out of his mind. So, the first florist I went to, after the consult, never sent me a quote. The second, I went with my cousin Janna, we met up with her at Starbucks. I was recommend to her by my photograph thinking that, I thought she would be good and reasonable. Well, her picture were nice, but first she recommend for me to have green flowers (my colors have NO! green in them) and then her price was not in my budget. The third florist, I drove out into the middle of nowhere (Troy,MO) to her house, she also recommend green, and her price was worse then the other. At this point I was beginning to loose hope for all florist, was I ever going to have a florist that listened to me as to what I wanted? The fourth finally did, however her price was not the best. Here I was thinking that I was never going to be able to afford flowers at my wedding. That was until I went to MarryMe Flowers. Yes, she was working from her home, but she had a very good vibe about her, her cost was perfect, and she listen to what I wanted. Best advice I can give to those on a strict budget, shop around. You will find it, it is out there for you.

Which brings us to this week. Monday, work was fine, went to my grandmothers house on my mother's side, just as I do every Monday after work. But this week I had to go over to my grandmother on my father's side to pick up the check for deposits (DJ,flowers,cake, wedding stuff etc.) There she throws a curve ball at me, tells me she has something important to tell me. My father didn't want to tell me him self, well when the only communication facility you have is e-mail it can be hard to tell you daughter, he has cancer. There I am my grandmother breaking down in front of me and the person who should be telling me the news miles away. Instantly I can not react to the news, only to my grandmother breaking down, so I comfort her. The only time I was able to contemplate what I just heard "Your father has rectal cancer, he may not be able to come to the wedding." was in my car, which is where I broke down. In result, I rushed back to my mother's side and there Nick(my fiance) met up to comfort me. This is why I know I am marrying the right man, I didn't even ask him to come, he looked up the address and rushed over.

In recent news after e-mailing back and forth with my father, he say that Nick and I should not move our date. In resent tests, the cancer looks like it is not spreading. So, there is a little sigh of relief. And I still hope he will be well enough to come to our wedding.

Bridal Show Test

Let me just warn you now, my post is about bridal shows. There is a lot of information out there for brides and one way to get it is through a bridal show. However, if you are not a person who likes crowds or people that harass you to sign up, then a Bridal Show is not for you.

I decided to do a test, I went to two bridal shows. The first bridal show, I was very prepared. I had some one with me, I had address labels made, and I had comfortable shoes. The only thing I did not know was what vendors would be there. My experience was good, however I felt very overwhelmed. Every where I looked there was another thing to put your name in for a raffle. A bit of a warning, unless you don't mind some stranger calling you phone, use a fake number. Also give them a "junk" e-mail address, because they with send information every day.

The second bridal show I went alone, did not bring labels or good shoes. I chose to go alone this time because I knew I only wanted to meet with a few vendors. The vendors I went to see, I have already made appointments for a consultation, I was just hoping that they would have a show discount. Most vendors have a show discount, you do not need to be pressured to sign up for this discount at the show. Most of the vendors, if you are interested will contact you again, to see if you still want the discount.

I highly recommend the to wear comfortable shoes and to bring address labels. Also bring your calender and make appointments for a consultation. This way they can take the time to talk with you and not a group of brides. The vendors are there to answer your question, find out their prices and don't be afraid to tell them that they are out of your price rage. Some vendors, if they are willing to work with you, will give a lower price that could fit in your budget.

So far because of the bridal show, I have found my photographer. Plus I have made many appointments to get together with other vendors.

Invitation Only

My latest transition is that I will be getting married this October. And it has yet to be an easy ride. To give you a little background, my parents are divorce which for most people would be OK, except that they are paying for the wedding. And neither one wants to pay more then the other. Not only that, but my father is living overseas with his new wife and son. My only communication with him is through e-mail and my grandmother. Normally I wouldn't mind this, except if my grandmother is upset with me, so is my father. So, I try to keep on good terms with both of them.

I wish that my fiance and I could come up with the finances our selves, but just like many other people in the United States we have had bad luck with the economy. Actually I wasn't expecting to get engaged so soon because at the time my fiance did not have a job. But he had surprised me with his family ring in the Botanical Gardens. It's beautiful and even more special because not only did it come from him, but from him family as well.

I have had many discussions with my family about the wedding. Mostly because of the guest list. You see, my family is Russian on both sides. If they had the chance they would invite the whole St. Louis Russian Jewish community to my wedding. Not only would that be unfair for my fiance's family, but my budget would be over drawn. I hate to be the wedding budget Nazi, but it is the only way to keep them from over inviting people.

I'm looking forward to be married. I'm just not looking forward to dealing with my own family as I get there.

What is in a Name...

You are probably wondering why have I named my blog as such. Every one has transitions in life, or moments is life. These will be mine. I've had many of these moments in my life already, such as from moving to different states, having dramatic moments such as separating from family then getting reunited. But we will get into all of that later.

Right at this time I just want to introduce myself. You can call me Miss ARG, yes like what a pirate would say. I'm here because as most other bloggers I feel like I have something to share. If you would like to hear more you are more then welcome to keep reading. For those that don't I'm glad I at least got to share with you this moment.